Jul 29

The temptation to quit

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This is a reprint of an e-mail written by Kavit Haria to his community of Daily Tip subscribers.
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May 29th, 2009, I received a birthday card from a fellow traveller, with an old Chinese saying that was inscribed on the back. It goes something like this:

“The temptation to quit will be the greatest just before you are about to succeed.”

At the time, I was working on a new project releasing a brand new coaching program to my database of musicians. I worked hard on it for several weeks. It never reached the standards that I had hoped it would.

I was about to throw in the towel. I wanted to just push it to the side and not launch it. In the end, that’s what I did. Till today, no-one has seen that project.

I remember another project I sold for just £600. It was a website I built to allow musicians to list their gigs and get promoted. I told myself I got bored with it, but really I was terrified that I would never make any money with it and so out of fear I sold it.

Looking back, not only would I have made several thousands with it, but the new owner ended up shutting it down and it’s no longer live. Don’t worry, I’m okay about it now.

I have had this urge to give up many times on many businesses.

But in most cases, I kept going and beyond this greatest fear and temptation I found success.

It’s a common reality for most people. Have you ever been in this position?

Athletes are tempted to quit when they are using most energy and practicing the hardest, yet just a few moments away are their greatest victories.

I meet many people every week who have tried building a business or creating passive income online only to now want to throw in the towel, to give up, and to find another route.

But please let me tell you, the freedom and riches you gain when you push through this temptation and fear to quit are far greater than quitting itself.

You might feel a temporary relief when you quit, but you return to the mundane boredom you may have been experiencing before.

I’d LOVE to have your comments on this topic. Have you ever quit or felt like quitting? Have you resisted temptation and therefore found success?

If there’s one message you can take away from today that makes a big difference to your life, let it be this simple yet profound Chinese saying.

Until tomorrow,

Kavit Haria

  • Billy Saunders

    Hi Kavit, I feel like quitting. I’m not a quitter, but I’m on the edge. I’ve been trying at this Internet marketing business for about 4 years now and still haven’t made a penny, not one. I started with Andrew Reynolds, having been inspired by his success and honesty. I signed on to his monthly course enthusiastically and did everything I was told but there was so much to learn – and I cover things slowly and in detail – that by the time I was ready to launch the product was already old and out dated.

    Eventually I’ve found that I’m comfortable with books and writing, that’s what I believe my strength is – having siphoned through the typhoon of information blowing in from every kind of Internet Marketer in the universe, and beyond. I even wrote a book, it’s on Amazon now but not selling. After I finished the book I kind of got lost and because it hasn’t sold, I’ve had to go back to work as before. Right now I’m about to do a marketing campaign for it but I feel so despondent, ( I’m not looking for counselling or sympathy mate ! lol !) that I’m dreading doing it. I may have to accept that it won’t make money. So, the next step is difficult. The difficulty is finding the self belief on enthusiasm to carry on until you succeed. I’ve always been positive, sometimes to the point of delusion but right now, I’m drained.

    I probably won’t give up. As I said, I’m not a quitter. But I hate feeling like this. I would however, if I had an inheritance or lottery win, go into property instead. I know property and believe I could make money from it.

    So just to say, I take what you say in the post, that quitting is part of the experience and most go through this period at sometime. The temptation to quit is a test. A test to see if you have the grit to succeed. Many don’t. You may change direction, but mustn’t lose your goals.
    Billy Saunders

    • Richard Smith

      Billy I have just searched for your book on Amazon.co.uk and can’t find it by ‘author’ – post a link. I get where you are coming from save I have launched a couple of products with some success but no where near enough to live on. Spinning wheels seems to be be the problem with most IM’s. My conventional business is doing ok – working with small and medium sized firms. That said swerving the apathetic and reluctant business owners seems to take up more and more time. I have written a book and ended up giving it away as series of articles in a ‘Professional Publication’ got some great PR from it and about 10 genuine enquiries. Perhaps a rewrite may help that. For me I am about to consider some contract work and continue the freelancing for short term, allowing me to focus on a changed model.

      • Billy Saunders

        Hi Richard, The book is written under a different name ! Its also a very unusual subject and I haven’t told my friends and family what it’s about. I looked into the niche and decided that it was worth doing firstly because there is great interest in the subject and secondly because I have experience of Thailand. I will post a link and hope it’s OK with Kavit. It’s an ethical book about the subject matter.
        http://www.amazon.co.uk/Ladyboy-Amy-ebook/dp/B00CD7WA2O/ref=pd_rhf_gw_p_t_1_Y9HW

        Your decision to break your book down into free publications by chapter was a good idea I think. Even when you don’t make money on a project it does, if the content is good, help to build your credibility and reputation which should help sales in the future. If I go on to do the book which I’m considering at the moment, I will need this first one to give me some credibility. Without it, I would have no chance of reaching the person I’m interested in pursuing.

        I will see how my marketing campaign goes and if I can’t make enough sales, I will try a similar method.

        • Richard Smith

          Billy this is uber niche, which should of course make it stand out. One issue I have with these very small niches is this – is the market big enough to make money from it? That said looking to spin off into related areas would make some sense. Key of course is being able to monetise what it is you really want to do. Happy Thursday.

          • Billy Saunders

            I think monetising it may be a problem too. I did the research – plenty of searches, millions on some keywords, but the problem may be that those searching are probably not interested in reading a book on the subject, they’re after something else – a quick thrill !

  • Billy Saunders

    Hi Kavit, I feel like quitting. I’m not a quitter, but I’m on the edge. I’ve been trying at this Internet marketing business for about 4 years now and still haven’t made a penny, not one. I started with Andrew Reynolds, having been inspired by his success and honesty. I signed on to his monthly course enthusiastically and did everything I was told but there was so much to learn – and I cover things slowly and in detail – that by the time I was ready to launch the product was already old and out dated.

    Eventually I’ve found that I’m comfortable with books and writing, that’s what I believe my strength is – having siphoned through the typhoon of information blowing in from every kind of Internet Marketer in the universe, and beyond. I even wrote a book, it’s on Amazon now but not selling. After I finished the book I kind of got lost and because it hasn’t sold, I’ve had to go back to work as before. Right now I’m about to do a marketing campaign for it but I feel so despondent, ( I’m not looking for counselling or sympathy mate ! lol !) that I’m dreading doing it. I may have to accept that it won’t make money. So, the next step is difficult. The difficulty is finding the self belief on enthusiasm to carry on until you succeed. I’ve always been positive, sometimes to the point of delusion but right now, I’m drained.

    I probably won’t give up. As I said, I’m not a quitter. But I hate feeling like this. I would however, if I had an inheritance or lottery win, go into property instead. I know property and believe I could make money from it.

    So just to say, I take what you say in the post, that quitting is part of the experience and most go through this period at sometime. The temptation to quit is a test. A test to see if you have the grit to succeed. Many don’t. You may change direction, but mustn’t lose your goals.
    Billy Saunders

    • Richard Smith

      Billy I have just searched for your book on Amazon.co.uk and can’t find it by ‘author’ – post a link. I get where you are coming from save I have launched a couple of products with some success but no where near enough to live on. Spinning wheels seems to be be the problem with most IM’s. My conventional business is doing ok – working with small and medium sized firms. That said swerving the apathetic and reluctant business owners seems to take up more and more time. I have written a book and ended up giving it away as series of articles in a ‘Professional Publication’ got some great PR from it and about 10 genuine enquiries. Perhaps a rewrite may help that. For me I am about to consider some contract work and continue the freelancing for short term, allowing me to focus on a changed model.

      • Billy Saunders

        Hi Richard, The book is written under a different name ! Its also a very unusual subject and I haven’t told my friends and family what it’s about. I looked into the niche and decided that it was worth doing firstly because there is great interest in the subject and secondly because I have experience of Thailand. I will post a link and hope it’s OK with Kavit. It’s an ethical book about the subject matter.
        http://www.amazon.co.uk/Ladyboy-Amy-ebook/dp/B00CD7WA2O/ref=pd_rhf_gw_p_t_1_Y9HW

        Your decision to break your book down into free publications by chapter was a good idea I think. Even when you don’t make money on a project it does, if the content is good, help to build your credibility and reputation which should help sales in the future. If I go on to do the book which I’m considering at the moment, I will need this first one to give me some credibility. Without it, I would have no chance of reaching the person I’m interested in pursuing.

        I will see how my marketing campaign goes and if I can’t make enough sales, I will try a similar method.

        • Richard Smith

          Billy this is uber niche, which should of course make it stand out. One issue I have with these very small niches is this – is the market big enough to make money from it? That said looking to spin off into related areas would make some sense. Key of course is being able to monetise what it is you really want to do. Happy Thursday.

          • Billy Saunders

            I think monetising it may be a problem too. I did the research – plenty of searches, millions on some keywords, but the problem may be that those searching are probably not interested in reading a book on the subject, they’re after something else – a quick thrill !

  • Guest

    Kavit, Billy, I’ve been at that stage and it is harder when those who depend on you and have been patient are beginning to get tired of waiting to see you make that break; and economics are beginning to dictate that you look elsewhere. Have been at it a little longer than Billy, and have had some successes. While I have been a quitter at times, I just know that I would hate going back to work full-time. Thank for the encouraging email/[post.

    Billy, Jack Canfield says that having a book and not marketing it is like having a baby and leaving it on a doorstep. What have you been doing to market your book?

    • Billy Saunders

      Hi mate, Sorry I don’t know your name. You totally get it. People will only give you so much rope and they give up on you far sooner than you give up on yourself. That’s even if they ever believed in you to begin with. I’ve leaned on my wife financially for the past year and I can’t do it any more.

      So far I’ve done nothing to market my book apart from announcing it on my facebook page and plonking it on Amazon. I actually got a hateful response from someone on my facebook friends list too which kinda shocked and hurt me really. I’m going to do some facebook advertising, youtube and also some press releases in the next couple of weeks now that I’m starting to get an income again. Maybe if it builds momentum it may succeed. It is a properly written book, in a popular niche and directed to a targeted audience.

      Another quote: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill.

      Cheers

  • Guest

    Kavit, Billy, I’ve been at that stage and it is harder when those who depend on you and have been patient are beginning to get tired of waiting to see you make that break; and economics are beginning to dictate that you look elsewhere. Have been at it a little longer than Billy, and have had some successes. While I have been a quitter at times, I just know that I would hate going back to work full-time. Thank for the encouraging email/[post.

    Billy, Jack Canfield says that having a book and not marketing it is like having a baby and leaving it on a doorstep. What have you been doing to market your book?

    • Billy Saunders

      Hi mate, Sorry I don’t know your name. You totally get it. People will only give you so much rope and they give up on you far sooner than you give up on yourself. That’s even if they ever believed in you to begin with. I’ve leaned on my wife financially for the past year and I can’t do it any more.

      So far I’ve done nothing to market my book apart from announcing it on my facebook page and plonking it on Amazon. I actually got a hateful response from someone on my facebook friends list too which kinda shocked and hurt me really. I’m going to do some facebook advertising, youtube and also some press releases in the next couple of weeks now that I’m starting to get an income again. Maybe if it builds momentum it may succeed. It is a properly written book, in a popular niche and directed to a targeted audience.

      Another quote: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill.

      Cheers

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    Hello everyone, thanks so much for coming along and commenting, sharing your experiences and thoughts. I value that.
    – Kavit Haria

  • http://www.insiderinternetsuccess.com/ Kavit Haria

    Hello everyone, thanks so much for coming along and commenting, sharing your experiences and thoughts. I value that.
    – Kavit Haria